We have been together for five years and were once sexually active and adventurous, but my partner has become closed off. We now have sex Erotic 43968 xxx every five to six weeks.
She hates talking about our sex life and her sexuality, which I find worse than the lack of sex. Your girlfriend is actually communicating very well about sex — nonverbally.
And, understandably, you do not like the message. You have reached Online dating for scientists impasse in your relationship, which will not be broken unless you find out exactly why your sexual and emotional connection was lost and find a good strategy to heal the rift.
It would probably be useful to acknowledge your past insensitivities, and apologise. Then calmly and sincerely share your true feelings of sadness and frustration.
Could we please talk about it? Help me to understand what you feel and how we lost our closeness?
Truth-telling can lead to a showdown and ultimatum, so first you should decide if you could continue in the relationship as it is or not. Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a US-based psychotherapist who specialises in treating sexual disorders.
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