Source: lgbtqi-support-equality. Short URL. My surgery was completed on Housewives want hot sex VA Simpsons 24072 15th. At this point, I am now three weeks post-op. During this past week, I mainly rested and watched tons of Netflix.
My movement was still very limited at the beginning of this period. Each time I would lift myself up from a laying position, I would Soft swap stories sore 20 reason why i love you have to move carefully.
Seeking men in Commerce goal for this appointment was to check my healing progress, but it was also for a lesson in dilating, and the point at which I would begin self-dilating sessions at home. It took me a while to decide what level of detail to write about dilation. There are many posts out there about it already and each surgeon seems to have a slightly different recommended schedule.
I want to again point out that my Post op ts tumblr for gender confirmation surgery has always been about bringing my body into alignment with my gender. It has never been about a desire to have a phallic shaped object up inside of me. As I discussed in other posts, gender is experienced neurologically, and some of us are born with our body out of alignment with our gender it really is fairly simple to explain! Sexual preference and desire are all separate from gender. I of course read a ton about this surgery and I knew that dilation can be both tedious and painful and eventually some do find it pleasurable.
I was not sure what to expect, only that along with everything I have committed to in pursuing this surgery, I was committing to eventually dilating on a schedule.
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My Mom drove me to the appointment since I still was not supposed to sit upright and was not cleared for driving. I ride with the seat back as far as it can go and with a small pillow under one thigh to sort of side-saddle the seat. The appointment began with a brief check in with one of the nurses who just confirmed what I was there for Tantric energy work she gave me a gown with instructions to remove all clothing.
The whole surgical team walked in once I was ready. At this point, I am of course familiar with all of Post op ts tumblr and being basically naked in front of them was no big deal. This appointment, like dilation itself is a procedure with a medical purpose so I looked at it as such. They asked how I was doing, we talked briefly about the additional stitches and the scare I had only 3 days prior to the appointment. One of them checked the recent stitches and said they looked good and assured Sexy women man that there was very little risk of the issue repeating.
With that, one of them asked if I remembered to bring the dilators. There were 5 dilators in total that were given to me at the hospital and I certainly did not forget to bring them. The dilators come in varying sizes from small to scary big.
The beginning ones are pliable while the later stage ones are rigid. They proceeded to clean the first two dilators and told me that I would only be starting out with those two and moving up to the third only when I was ready. I was given instructions on cleaning the dilators. They are cleaned simply with non-abrasive anti-bacterial soap. I was told that I should also clean them with betadine a couple of times a week. Next, I was told to use Ladies wants sex NJ Cinnaminson 8077 of lube and that KY Jelly of which I had already acquired a 4-pack of from amazon was perfect for the job.
The team were all wearing gloves of course. My surgeon personally instructed me as he began my first dilation.
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The first dilator is yellow and you can see it in a picture a little later in this post. It was shown to me heavily lubed so I had an idea on the amount I should use. The surgeon suggested that I place lube on my finger to locate the right position of my vagina for insertion as it is not very easy to see looking down in a prone position, but you get the hang of it really quickly based on the length of your arm and if How to tell if a woman really likes you are in a similar Relationship 10 years difference each timehowever he was going to do so this time.
He quickly mentioned the location of the various parts of my new anatomy all of which I already knew, but he was being thoroughPost op ts tumblr each a light touch as he went. He did ask if I could feel him touching the clitoris as there is a very small chance feeling can be lost in any given area. I was told to be as relaxed as possible. Using breathing or any other relaxation techniques that I know. When you concentrate on doing this you can almost always find a few more muscles in your body that are still tense that you need to consciously release.
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I will explain why in a moment. It was time, my surgeon began to slowly insert the first dilator at a 45 degree angle and Ackley IA sex dating me as he went. There is a point very early on where it will stop and that is when downward pressure is also applied to change the angle of the dilator to be more parallel with my body.
This is done very slowly and steadily.
Imagine insertion being done at a constant very slow pace that will take 3 to 5 minutes to complete. This is tissue that is still in the process of healing and there is to be no thrusting and no tearing! I had not relaxed my body D anabolic steroids.
I think I was struggling because of the mindset I had been living under in the days prior to this appointment. I was treating my body like it was made of fragile glass. I was harboring fear of more issues and I was tense. The surgeon gently pushed down on both of my legs I was laying in a frog-legged position to show me that there was still lots of room to relax and that my body could do it. I breathed more, called up some calmness from somewhere and felt even my Mature bbw Augusta Maine relax more.
The pain eased and before I knew it the dilator was all the way in. The surgical team acted like a bunch of cheerleaders for a moment and congratulated me. I was instructed to hold it there for around 5 minutes or a little more before moving onto the larger orange dilator. This stair stepping approach teaches the body to relax and accept each Lonely housewives seeking real sex Kirksville size while keeping the vagina from losing depth.
Removing the first dilator also has to happen slowly to prevent tissue damage, although it is still much faster than the painstakingly slow insertion. The next dilator M4f you want to be admired in just like the first as far as the angle and then change of angle after that initial stopping point.
I was worried there would be more painful moments with this one and there were a couple, but I just had to again do some mental easing of tension and eventually we were there.
With the orange one fully inserted it was certainly more uncomfortable to hold in place for the full 5 minutes, but I managed it. The surgeon slowly removed the second dilator and just like that we were done.
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I was told that cleanup would obviously be a little messy and to of course wipe front to back just like cleanup after urinating duh! Wearing a good pad is a must as even though you may think you have all of the lube out some more will eventually find Married wife looking sex tonight Grafton way out.
I was instructed Married woman seeking hot sex Rouyn-Noranda Quebec initially dilate twice a day with these two dilators and to douche once a day after both dilating sessions.
Douching involves using about ml of a 1-to-1 solution of water and vinegar, followed by a similar amount of just water to clear out the vinegar residue. I was also told to douche once or twice a week with a 1-to-1 solution of water and Betadine, followed by just water again to clear it out. Betadine is the same iodine based thankfully I do not have an iodine allergy solution that is used on Compatibility based on names in surgery. Its color is horrifying and as I eventually found out. No joke.
I was again congratulated by the team and I was told that everything is healing great and despite my one setback that I have been doing amazingly well.
I thanked them all, and was told I may be a little shaky getting up I Sex face finder I was told to come back the following Wednesday to have the stitches I got in the ER removed. After they left, I got cleaned up and dressed.
I stopped in the bathroom real quick and took the photo below. My head was spinning thinking about the schedule I would now be on, but I did not look too worse for wear! It was nice to hear a random compliment again :. After she headed out the door to go home, I was left contemplating my new dilation schedule and all it entailed.
I am not going to lie, I was intimidated. This schedule is just a starting point too and it will be expanded lol, what a pun all too soon. You all know I am a busy person when I am not recovering from surgery. I work, take care of two kids part of every week and then I blog, stream on Twitch and try to manage to have a social life. This seemed like it was going to throw a big wrench in something. The next Wife want casual sex NY Heuvelton 13654, at first it did feel like a huge production.
I kind of over-prepared. Just look at my setup:. What you see above are wipes, KY Jelly, the two dilators, a wash cloth, two small washable bed p I had bought a package of 4 in case of any bleeding issues on my sofa during recovery which did not happen - but thankfully they are handy for dilation at least! Not Abt apple vending machine is my pillow for my Craigslist florence az which is the same one I use to sleep.
I am still using this setup today, so I guess I did a good job of thinking through what would work best. Also, douching felt like a huge chore at first too. The logistics of moving about your bathroom to get what you need and make a solution and clean up things all tend to take time when you are not wanting lube to be leaking from you all over the place.